In My Write Mind


Below you’ll find categorized evidence that I should probably sleep more

PSA:

How This All Started (A.K.A. Why You’re Reading My Chaos)

Let me just start by saying… I did not set out to be a “blogger.” I didn’t grow up thinking, You know what I wanna be when I grow up? Someone who overshares on the internet with shit Wi-Fi and a suspicious number of coffee mugs, and only a handful I use.

No.
I started this whole thing because life wouldn’t stop handing me material.

Picture it: I grew up with a mom who could’ve won Olympic gold in guilt-tripping. Then I graduated to my ex-husband — let’s call him Stevie — a man so committed to playing the victim he could’ve gotten a Netflix special. This man has weaponized khakis. He has that fake “I’m just concerned” tone down to an art form. The kind of guy who would set the house on fire, then stand outside with a garden hose like, See? I’m helping.

Somewhere in between family drama, custody battles, and collecting enough emotional baggage to start my own airline, I started writing. Not because it was cute and aesthetic, but because if I didn’t, my brain was going to implode like a bad science experiment.

At first, it was poetry. Sad, messy, rip-your-own-heart-out poetry that nobody was supposed to see. But then I realized — people get it. Even strangers on the internet have their own brand of fucked up, and my words somehow made them feel less alone.

And now, because I’m writing a book (yes, a whole book), apparently I also “need a blog.” One of my teachers said, it makes you look professional and tells publishers you’re serious about writing — even if half your posts are about your personal vendetta against Stevie’s narcissism. So here we are.

But here’s the thing: this blog is basically my journal… that, for some reason, everyone gets to read. And like any journal, there’s going to be stuff in here someone won’t like. But guess what? If you don’t like it… I don’t fuckin’ like it either. That’s why I’m venting about it.

This space is mine. It’s my safe zone to be blunt, laugh at the absurdity, and remind myself — and anyone reading — that you can survive just about anything if you keep your sense of humor.

So yeah. That’s why you’re here.
Welcome to my circus. Grab a coffee. No, seriously — grab one. You’re going to need it.

What’s the Best Way to Deal with Negative Thoughts?

What’s the best way to deal with negative thoughts? People always tell you to “think positive.” Which is adorable. That’s like telling someone whose kitchen is on fire, “Have you tried… not having flames?” Or… “Hey, remember that embarrassing thing you did in 2008?” Why yes, Brain. I was trying to enjoy my coffee, but…

Dear University,

I finally graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing & English. Here’s what four years of school taught me, why I’m ridiculously proud of it, and why my next assignment is 140,000 words long.

So… Apparently I’m Writing a Fantasy Novel Now.

I’m days away from graduating with a Creative Writing degree and apparently my brain interpreted that as: “Excellent. Let’s immediately attempt one of the most complicated genres imaginable.” Naturally. Because writing a fantasy novel sounded like a perfectly reasonable way to relax. Spoiler alert: it is not relaxing. It is, however, incredibly fun. Here’s the…

One-Star Reviews of Joshua Tree National Park Are My New Favorite Hobby

I live near Joshua Tree. Not in Joshua Tree. I have not fully ascended into desert wizard status. I still require air conditioning, iced tea, and occasional contact with civilization. But I live close enough that when people leave one-star reviews of Joshua Tree National Park, I can read them while staring out the window…

Luxury? No. Survival.

What’s the one luxury you can’t live without? If you’d asked me this question when I was younger, I probably would’ve said books. Or coffee. Or maybe the internet because apparently I need to know the life story of a random actor at 2:17 in the morning. Now? Air conditioning. Without hesitation. Without debate. Without…

What Makes A Life Well Lived

What are the most important things needed to live a good life? People always say the secret to a good life is relationships. Family. Friends. Community. Connection. Which sounds lovely until you’ve actually met people. Then suddenly a cabin in Alaska starts sounding less like isolation and more like self-care. What are the most important…